Yes, in continual of The Science of Happiness from my course I took at edx.org I bring you another excerise of self loving to do! It does not take long and you may find yourself in awe! Love and Light everyone! Enjoy
This exercise asks you to write a letter to yourself expressing compassion for an aspect of yourself that you don’t like. Research suggests that people who respond with compassion to their own flaws and setbacks—rather than beating themselves up over them—experience greater physical and mental health.
First, identify something about yourself that makes you feel ashamed, insecure, or not good enough. It could be something related to your personality, behavior, abilities, relationships, or any other part of your life.
Once you identify something, write it down and describe how it makes you feel. Sad? Embarrassed? Angry? Try to be as honest as possible, keeping in mind that no one but you will see what you write.
The next step is to write a letter to yourself expressing compassion, understanding, and acceptance for the part of yourself that you dislike.
As you write, follow these guidelines:
1. Imagine that there is someone who loves and accepts you unconditionally for who you are. What would that person say to you about this part of yourself?
2. Remind yourself that everyone has things about themselves that they don’t like, and that no one is without flaws. Think about how many other people in the world are struggling with the same thing that you’re struggling with.
3. Consider the ways in which events that have happened in your life, the family environment you grew up in, or even your genes may have contributed to this negative aspect of yourself.
4. In a compassionate way, ask yourself whether there are things that you could do to improve or better cope with this negative aspect. Focus on how constructive changes could make you feel happier, healthier, or more fulfilled, and avoid judging yourself.
5. After writing the letter, put it down for a little while. Then come back to it later and read it again. It may be especially helpful to read it whenever you’re feeling bad about this aspect of yourself, as a reminder to be more self-compassionate.
Evidence that it works
Breines, J. G. & Chen, S. (2012). Self-compassion increases self-improvement motivation. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 18(9), 1133-1143.
Participants in an online study who wrote a compassionate paragraph to themselves regarding a personal weakness subsequently reported greater feelings of self-compassion. They also experienced other psychological benefits, such as greater motivation for self-improvement.
Other supporting evidence
Leary, M. R., Tate, E. B., Adams, C. E., Allen, A. B., & Hancock, J. (2007). Self-compassion and reactions to unpleasant self-relevant events: The implications of treating oneself kindly. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 92, 887-904.
Neff, K. D., & Germer, C. K. (2013). A pilot study and randomized controlled trial of the mindful self-compassion program. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 69(1), 28-44.
Shapira, L. B., & Mongrain, M. (2010). The benefits of self-compassion and optimism exercises for individuals vulnerable to depression. The Journal of Positive Psychology, 5, 377-389.
Why it works
Self-compassion reduces painful feelings of shame and self-criticism that can compromise mental health and well-being and stand in the way of personal growth. Writing is a powerful way to cope with negative feelings and change the way you think about a difficult situation.
Writing in a self-compassionate way can help you replace your self-critical voice with a more compassionate one--one that comforts and reassures you rather than berating yourself for your shortcomings. It takes time and practice, but the more your write in this way, the more familiar and natural the compassionate voice will feel, and the easier it will be to remember to treat yourself kindly when you’re feeling down on yourself.
Juliana Breines, Ph.D., Brandeis University
Kristin Neff, Ph.D., University of Texas, Austin
As the world around me is shifting, including myself and my own surroundings. I have been seeking mediation states more and more everyday. Whilst during listening to random song choices of Pandora's David Bowie channel, headphone game on strong. I got lost in the vibrations of a song (don't ask me I don't have a clue what song) which I often do when my meditation game is strong. For me I follow the song waves and they become something entirely different than the actual song playing for the moment. They become like currents for me to hitch rides to a higher vibrational frequency. Which is why I use sound during my healing sessions.
I found myself in 5D drifting higher until I came across the only thing I can say was a void. But this void was all the frequency of higher collectives merging as one.
My body was no longer my body. I was pure energy. I could see the flicks of energy bouncing back in and out of this what only I can say was a vortex of light. I become closer and closer, free. Nothing around me had an existence. I was for that moment in 7D. Then suddenly something happen.
I saw a figure come towards me, it was different because in the void of light it was dark. It was oddly strange, I remember saying to myself "dad?". As soon as I said that the figure went thru me, I remember suddenly my body jerked. I opened my eyes, but I couldn't see. So I closed them to return. However, that jerk set me what I can only describe as "out of frequency" with the 7D. It was like my energy was for a moment kinda like static electricity trying to enter. I could see my own frequency pattern jagged. Kinda reminded me of what you would see on a heart monitor.
The next thing I knew my phone rang. I belong to an online gaming community and only a few have my number. It was from one of those members. Only reason this person would cal me is because of game. So that call knocked me clear back to earth. But I was not really on earth.
I went to my game did a roll call, since when I answered no one was on the other end. Thought to myself strange, nothing is going on in the game. Then it dawned on me, my friend who called is a geologist. I just laughed sent him a message about his call and how it sent me back to earth. The strange thing was my vision was super blurry. Like my eyes could not focus.
So after I sent him the message, spirit told me to check the time I got the call. I first read it as 655, because of my vision being they way it was. Ok, got the message. Then I was talking to my husband about the message. Mind you I was still in 4D at this time, so although I was aware of my surroundings I was what you can say "not all there".
I tried to focus on coming back from the meditation. Spirit called to me again, check time. I looked at my phone it was slightly past 6pm. Then it clicked the phone call could have not come in at that time. So I looked at time again of the phone call 5:55pm I just bursted out laughing. Shortly after I got a message from my game friend stating his 2 year had his phone and he apologized for calling. I laughed when I heard it was a 2 year old, I had been getting messages of 222 combos all week.
It took some time for my vision to come back.
This experience is exactly what I needed. I feel free of burdens that have been bothering me all week.
I will admit I have been super sensitive to others vibrations. But I pushed whatever was given to me back out to this plane of existence.
I have spoken about Mindful Breath before and here it is again part of the happiness practices, I have included the audio you tube video for those whom would like a guided meditation of the mindfulness of just breath. Remember this is from The Science of Happiness which is coursework available on edx.org
“Mindfulness” refers to the ability to observe one’s thoughts, feelings, and bodily sensations without judging them as good or bad; it’s the skill of paying careful attention to the present moment. Research links mindfulness to lower stress and higher well-being. But how do you cultivate mindfulness? A basic method is to focus your attention on your own breathing. After setting aside time to practice mindful breathing, you should find it easier to focus attention on your breath in your daily life—an important skill to help you deal with stress, negative emotions, and sharpen your skills of concentration.
15 minutes daily for at least a week (though evidence suggests that mindfulness increases the more you practice it).
Find a relaxed, comfortable position. You could be seated on a chair or on the floor on a cushion. Keep your back upright, but not too tight. Hands resting wherever they’re comfortable. Tongue on the roof of your mouth or wherever it’s comfortable.
Arch, J. J., & Craske, M. G. (2006). Mechanisms of mindfulness: Emotion regulation following a focused breathing induction. Behaviour Research and Therapy, 44(12), 1849-1858.
Participants who completed a 15-minute focused breathing exercise (similar to the mindful breathing exercise described above) reported less negative emotion in response to a series of slides that displayed negative images, compared with people who didn’t complete the exercise. These results suggest that the focused breathing exercise helps to improve participants’ ability to regulate their emotions.
Why It Works
Mindfulness gives people distance from their thoughts and feelings, which can help them tolerate and work through unpleasant feelings rather than becoming overwhelmed by them. Mindful breathing in particular is helpful because it gives people an anchor for their awareness that they can return to when they find themselves carried away by a stressful thought. Mindful breathing also helps people stay “present” in the moment, rather than being distracted by regrets in the past or worries about the future.
Diana Winston, Ph.D., UCLA Mindful Awareness Research Center (MARC)
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